Mom: Why don't you find a date? It's okay to meet someone through a blind date, who hasn't worked hard to get through a marriage.
Me: You have to meet the right person.
Mom: You don't find any of them suitable? The one I introduced to you last time is two years younger than you and has good qualifications, what are you picking on?
Me: ......
Mom: If you don't change your mind and get married, you will definitely suffer in the future. You always refuse to listen to the words of the old people, and you are too stubborn in your thinking.
You don't always take the old man's words seriously.
The idea also refuses to change.
Me: It's worse if you get married just for age and end up divorced.
Mom: You always think of divorce before you get married, you can't have this mentality. Once you have a family, we will naturally manage it with care.
You're just afraid of getting tired and are avoiding marriage.
Me: ......
Mom: Are you giving up on yourself?
Me: How can you say that? Everyone's heart longs for goodness and hopes to meet someone they truly love.
Mom: You're still living in an ideal? What ideal type are you talking about now? Don't fantasize. If you don't get married, you'll be in more trouble later.
Such a conversation makes me feel especially low, but my mom's words seem to have a point ...... In case I really don't get married and hold myself back, won't I regret it even more? Still, I can't just marry someone just because of their age.
This conversation is all too familiar, as my mom always says to me, their words sound so convincing, are we wrong? No. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. We just can't do it. We can't just find someone to marry and have children, as they expect.
"Everyone's come this far, why can't you? Don't be too idealistic, you won't even have someone to talk to when you get old." Don't these words sound familiar? But even if we are influenced by these truths over and over again, even if we get married and have children, our hearts may still not be happy, or else why do we still insist on it? Maybe we need to figure out what we really want and be honest with our hearts.
When people push me to get married, I feel as if getting married is not something I want to do, but rather something people think I should do, and that rebellious streak comes up and I want to hide away instead. I don't know if you're like that, but you can pay more attention to your feelings.
From your description, I can sense a bit of self-doubt, partially agreeing with the reasoning of your mom, and maybe you're worried that you'll have a bad time in the future if you don't get married, but you've made it clear that you don't want to compromise because of your age.
Mom's conversation is more out of love, she is afraid of the trouble you will encounter if you are single, afraid that you will be unhappy, behind this worry is caring, unlike some parents who feel that their children do not get married to make them lose face. You treat dating cautiously, in fact, is also responsible for their own happiness, so your goal is the same, are hoping that you live well, just in different ways.
From your situation, you are not rejecting marriage, you just haven't met someone you like and suitable, then you can expand the circle of friends more.
Thinking about it from another angle, dating is actually an opportunity to get to know more people of the opposite sex. There are acquaintances, offline activities, or online singles groups, dating apps and APPs, etc. There are more chances to try more, but love at first sight may not be easy. Li Yinhe said that if you pursue love, you may have to be prepared to be celibate. Why don't you start with hobbies, such as beanbag groups, offline courses or car enthusiast groups, and find like-minded people?
That's all that comes to mind for now, so I hope that helps a bit.