Have you ever encountered such a situation: and someone had a conflict, after the heart always can not let go, at any time and place will think of TA, even if you try to enlighten themselves but no effect? You don't know what to do?
Hi, giving you a warm hug. I'm Phil.
I'm really sorry you're having such trouble.
From what you've described, you've been in a bad situation with someone that
Though they may be out of touch now.
But all the memories and thoughts about TA.
It's still going through your head.
It's no use trying to console yourself, even if you try.
Wondering how to get out?
In fact, when we want to forget something.
Often, I force myself to "get over it."
But it often backfires, and the more you remind yourself of it.
The more I remember those thoughts, the more I remember them.
Make yourself more miserable and entangled.
There's a famous "pink elephant experiment" in psychology.
The researchers asked participants to never think of a pink elephant that
As it turned out, the more it was emphasized
Instead, the more people can't help but think about it.
It shows that the more we tell ourselves not to remember something.
The brain reinforces this memory instead.
In general, trying to make annoying thoughts go away.
divert attention
When thoughts are racing, find something relaxing and fun to do, such as learning a small skill, exercising, or watching a movie, to keep yourself busy, with no time for rambling, and slowly shift your attention elsewhere.
drop everything
Letting go sounds hard, but it's much easier when you understand the nature of things. For example, why is TA always on your mind? Is it because you feel guilty, or hurt, or TA is important to you? You can talk to a friend, analyze it logically, and release it little by little to achieve peace.
I hope my advice helps.
The world and I love you.