Both of my date's sisters have been married for several years, but they have been living in their mother-in-law's house. Before my partner and I were even married, I began to worry that I might not be able to adapt to this complicated family environment. I told my partner about my concerns, but he said that my sisters were very good at getting along and that there would be no conflicts. But in my heart, I always felt that the relationship was too complicated and I was afraid that I couldn't handle it well. What makes me even more uncomfortable is that his father actually said that I was overthinking, and asked me if I was so old that I couldn't even handle relationships. I think this is too unreasonable, I haven't married yet, who is he to educate me? Now I want to break up with him, I don't want to continue this relationship.
Hi girl! Seeing what you've shared, let me start by giving you a warm hug. Your date may come from a large family and you may have grown up in a small family, so it's natural to worry about how to cope with the complexities of a large family.
You've communicated your insecurities to your date, but he doesn't seem to take it seriously and just thinks his sisters are fine. This implies that if you get married, you may have to fit into his family environment.
His dad also accuses you of not being able to handle relationships, which makes you feel aggravated - after all, you're not even through the door yet, and that expectation is a bit much.
Your concern is not unreasonable; a small family background may make you less familiar with complex relationships.
You've also tried expressing anxiety to the subject, but he doesn't seem to be in your shoes.
At this point, perhaps you need to revisit the relationship.
Breaking up may be a better option because what you need is understanding, tolerance and support from the person you're with.
Trust yourself to know what you need most, such as thoughtfulness and understanding from the other person.
I sincerely hope you find a solution to this problem soon.
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