I often make all kinds of plans for myself, but for some reason it's always hard to stick to them.
It keeps me thinking about what the problem is.
Perhaps we need to analyze the reasons at a deeper level.
Four years of college have rushed by, and it seems like I've learned nothing and my self-growth has stagnated. Even though I'm 28 years old, people still always treat me like a child, which makes me feel stressed.
I seem to have accomplished nothing up to now, except for the three years of high school when I put up a fight.
I really hate myself right now: no job, no date, and no moral support whatsoever.
I know that those who seem to be glowing are the result of hard work.
Why can't I? Life feels like such a failure that I'm wandering aimlessly like an empty shell.
What am I supposed to do? Especially with the marriage rush, I don't know what to do about finding a relationship. I had a relationship in college that I thought would lead to marriage, but after graduation he grew distant and I chose to break up in order to preserve my dignity. Now there is always the fear that if I don't live as well as him, I will be looked down upon. However, with this feeling of humiliation, I don't make a good effort to plan my life and feel too spineless and defeated.
What went wrong here? How did life get this way?
Hello my friend! It's great to see your deep reflection on your current situation and your determination to change, which is already the first step towards success.
First of all, I want to tell you that you are not alone.
Many people experience similar problems, and everyone grows at their own pace without having to be overly critical of themselves.
Next, let's analyze the problem step by step.
From your description, I can see that you have a strong sense of self-awareness, and your efforts during the college entrance exam prove that you possess perseverance. These are your valuable advantages. The problem may not lie in the lack of planning, but in the obstacles or lack of motivation in the process of execution.
How can we solve this problem?
A common problem is setting goals that are too big or unrealistic. Try breaking big goals into small steps, rewarding yourself for each small step you accomplish, and slowly building up a sense of accomplishment and confidence.
Emotional management is also a key factor.
Self-doubt and negativity can easily interfere with persistence. When you feel like you can't do it, try to look at yourself in a more positive light, accepting shortcomings while recognizing your strengths and progress.
Regarding past emotional experiences.
There is no need to let past relationships and the current situation define the value of your life. Every experience is a part of growing up, learning from it, and believing that there is more goodness waiting for you to explore in the future.
On the issue of marriage reminders.
If the rush of marriage is stressing you out, it is advisable to focus on improving your quality of life first. When you find hobbies and interests and establish a steady rhythm of life, you will naturally attract the right person.
If you find it difficult to cope alone, consider seeking the help of a professional counselor. They can provide systematic support to help you clarify your thoughts and find solutions.
Everyone has their own pace, don't be in a hurry. Believe in yourself, take your time, move forward one step at a time, and you will find your own direction and happiness. Good luck! 💞