Eight years ago, when I first joined this organization, a colleague took the initiative to talk to me about the family background of my colleagues. Honestly, at first I was quite grateful for her sharing, but to my surprise, she suddenly pointed her index finger at my nose and threatened, "I'll stomp on you if you dare to tell anyone!" That kind of behavior instantly turned me off, and something similar actually happened three times. Each time I barely managed to cope with it, but in my heart I sounded the alarm: this person is definitely not to be befriended deeply.
Afterward she said three times behind people's backs in a conspiratorial manner, "Go tell the leader if you can!" I especially hate this kind of provocative behavior.
What kind of big deal can a small organization have that needs to be brought to the attention of the leadership? I want to break the head also do not understand. This situation has lasted for almost a year, making me uncomfortable, simply in the heart of this person as the air, do not meet greetings, can avoid avoid, do not want to have any relationship.
As a result, in March, the leader reorganized the office and even put her next to me! There were two others in the office with her and it just made me sick to my stomach.
Now I put on my headphones as soon as I enter the office and pretend I don't hear anything outside the window, but I'm actually still clogged up inside.
How the hell am I supposed to let go of this kink?
Working with coworkers who love to gossip behind their backs is a real pain in the ass.
When you choose to be silent and avoid it, and you are assigned to the same office, can wearing headphones really isolate you? Maybe it's just self-deception.
She's there, their little group is there, and instead you seem out of place, in a sort of out-of-the-blue loneliness.
Low and behold, I believe that thorn in your heart is still aching.
But if you think about it from another angle, this is actually a good opportunity for us to practice.
No one is perfect, who doesn't have some faults? Can we try to be more tolerant of other people's shortcomings?
Life is not black and white, and it's important to learn to balance in the gray areas. It's important to be able to appreciate the good in others as well as accept the bad.
When you can openly accept everything from others, you actually reconcile with yourself.
Outside personnel are like mirrors that reflect our inner world.
Not asking you to be complicit, but you don't have to draw a line in the sand either.
Learn to deal with your coworkers in an easy-going manner and don't make the situation a stalemate.
Of course, keep a proper distance to avoid getting involved in the circle of right and wrong.
When we meet, we smile and say hello, you're you, I'm me, she's her, and we go our separate ways.
If she keeps chewing you out, you can just say you're not interested in those topics or remind her not to spread gossip. The chat initiative is really in your hands.
When coworker relationships are handled well, an eight-hour work day can be turned into spiritual nourishment, which is good for physical and mental health.
I wish you a speedy release and good luck in the workplace.