My family has a relative who has a particularly violent temper, always likes to give orders to others, can repeat the same thing many times, and he can hold a grudge for a long time for other people's minor problems. If someone doesn't buy his argument, he may take extreme actions, such as threatening to jump off a building, smashing things, or even hurting himself with a knife.
He also loves to make his presence felt by putting others down, but when he himself is frustrated, he is dying and even bad-mouthing his family. What kind of mental illness is this?
Also, what can be done to alleviate his impulsive behavior of threatening suicide when he moves?
Hello friend! Thank you for talking to me about this heartbreaking situation. I can appreciate the helplessness and stress you feel when dealing with this kind of relative, and this kind of emotion is so normal, after all, it's a headache for anyone when it comes to this kind of thing in the family.
From your description, your relative's behavior does seem to have shades of psychological problems. For example, he is always bossing people around, repeatedly bringing up old things, and holds a special grudge, all of which show a strong desire for control, and perhaps he is trying to find some security through this. But if he goes to extremes when things don't go his way, such as jumping off a building, smashing things, or hurting himself, it shows that his emotional management is very poor, and he may have borderline personality disorder or other emotional disorders.
Plus his habit of putting others down, which is often due to an internal inferiority complex, and trying to save face by putting others down. But this pattern both hurts his feelings and isolates himself even more from the pain.
To deal with this situation, you have to take care of yourself first. Don't focus on others and forget about your own emotional health. It's important to talk to a friend, family member or professional counselor to lighten the load.
At the same time, giving more care and understanding when he's calm and making him feel accepted can help minimize conflict. Of course, caring is not the same as condoning, and you have to draw the line, such as clearly telling him which behaviors are not okay and sticking to it. It takes patience, but it can improve the relationship.
The most important thing is to take him to a psychologist or psychiatrist for a full evaluation. Specialized treatment such as medication or counseling may work. If he becomes more suicidal or self-injurious, call an emergency number to make sure he gets prompt help.
I hope these tips will help you stabilize the situation. Remember, while helping others, don't shortchange yourself physically or mentally.
If you need more support, feel free to talk to a counselor who can give you personalized guidance. Best wishes to you and your family in finding peace sooner rather than later~