Hi everyone, I'm here to share a true story about my cousin. His mom sadly passed away due to depression. The first girlfriend he dated after that suffered from lupus erythematosus - the same disease that Light Dancing got in the novel - and the doctor said it was not suitable for marriage. He struggled internally for a long time before breaking up after his family persuaded him to do so. After about two years, he started a new relationship, but recently found out that this girlfriend has psoriasis, which is also incurable and may even be passed on to the next generation.
Having stumbled into this situation twice in a row, I couldn't help but wonder if this was a psychological factor behind my cousin's influence. Perhaps there was an unresolved knot inside him that caused him to always unconsciously repeat similar relationship patterns, as if creating the same dilemma in the outside world.
Even if he breaks up with this current girlfriend, I'm worried that the next person might still have health problems. My cousin's parents love him, but they don't quite have the right ways, like nagging a lot, which made my cousin's personality a bit odd and gave him a depressing feeling when he was an adolescent. He sometimes got up in the morning and talked to himself, not knowing what he was complaining about. Later, his mom always felt sick and hurt everywhere, but the hospital couldn't check the cause, probably because of the relationship between the couple and worrying about the cousin, and eventually died of depression.
My cousin was quite handsome as a child, but after puberty his cheekbones became prominent and he looked like he was malnourished. I think this may be related to psychological stress. Now that he repeatedly encounters sick objects in his intimate relationships, I am wondering if his inner world is invisibly creating such situations.
Even if one is not a psychology professional, one can tell that there is some unusual behavior in the cousin and his family. In all likelihood, both the cousin and his mom have some missing or unresolved psychological issues.
In fact, it's not the fact that his girlfriend is sick per se that's more informative, it's the fact that his mom died of depression and his poor interaction patterns with his family, which may be at the heart of the problem.