In the eyes of others, I have always been a good girl, but my parents often look down on me, making me feel inferior. For example, if I help to do housework, they still have to pick and choose ...... They always say, "I don't even bother to talk about you," which has become their habitual language.
These words are like pins and needles stabbing my heart, I really feel so bad! The writing is limited, so please be more understanding.
Hello, friend! I can feel your aggravation and pain and a touch of self-doubt. Let me start by giving you a warm hug! You are certainly a kind and considerate person who always takes care of other people's feelings. Many of us crave our parents' approval, but sometimes we exhaust ourselves trying to please them instead. First, try to establish your own boundaries, sort out what are your feelings and what are your parents', and clarify your needs and their needs. Sorting it out in this way can lead to a better understanding of yourself. I think we all have similar experiences, always wanting our parents to be happy and approve of us, but even when we do a good job, sometimes we still get hurt and become an outlet for their emotions. When your parents' words are too much for you to bear, you can avoid them for a while and wait until you calm down before communicating with them, saying what you think and feel, and listening to their views as well. Understand each other a little more, the conflict will naturally be less. Quietly think about it, how do you see yourself? Try to accept yourself and give yourself more affirmation. Go do something you like, achieve small goals, and you will become more and more powerful inside. When the inner strength is strong, you can face everything openly. I hope you find that strength to accept yourself and live life to the fullest! ☘☀️