I had previously developed a crush on a guy, and then by mistake, one of my friends added him on WeChat through me. I confessed to my friend that I liked the boy, and she encouraged me to take the initiative to pursue and express my feelings. So I boldly confessed to the boy, thinking it wouldn't hurt to try, but it turned out that the boy didn't have any feelings for me and said it would be more appropriate to be friends. I got it and didn't dwell on it. But after that I realized that my friend was chatting with people all day long, and when we were together, we were busy eating and walking and replying to messages. I later realized that she was talking to the guy I liked, they shared daily routines and got closer and closer, playing games, videoing movies, etc. together. She also always shares these details with me, I can only bitterly smile and cope, my heart is quite helpless and strange, not to mention she has a boyfriend, more like she feels mindful of it. I don't know what to do, and I'm curious what my friend's intentions are in doing this.
Hello friend!
I can tell from your description that you are a girl who knows how to get in and get out.
When the other person clearly says to be friends, you honor yourself and give them space by not pestering them.
In life, many people are so resentful when they can't love each other that they end up hurting each other. You're doing a great job of that.
Give yourself some credit!
Later I found out that my friend was always chatting with someone, when we were eating and walking together we couldn't return all the messages, I realized that she was chatting with the guy I liked, they shared their daily lives, played games, watched movies on video, and got closer and closer, and she kept telling me about it, I could only laugh bitterly in response, I felt weird and helpless, not to mention that she also had a boyfriend, so I minded it even more!The
I don't want to just call her "scum", but her behavior really makes you think that way.
I can see that she's pretty casual about relationships (a bit of a skewed view), and guys should know that she has a boyfriend (again, a skewed view).
In this case, they still hit it off (the two of them just "clicked").
This guy also has a problem with boundary sense and you would be wise to pull away.
Keep your distance from her.
In relationships, you friend may crave more attention and companionship.
Normal people have mental boundaries and will grasp the limits of heterosexual interactions.
She's clearly overstepping her boundaries, and it's easy to get into a polyamorous relationship that way.
A friendly reminder that it's best to keep some distance from her so that she doesn't blame you when she has problems with her boyfriend.
Not everyone can let go in time as atmospherically as you.
Stay true to who you are and I'm sure you'll meet someone more suitable.